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RELATIONSHIP 101


The way people behave when dating reveals how they will behave when married. Habits and attitudes established while dating are usually carried into marriage. Don't be deceived. If he cheats on you now, he'd probably cheat when you both get married. It all starts now!

Everyone is always so eager to be in a relationship, to be loved by someone else. It's a good thing to be loved and cared for. However, this desperation has led many into wrong and toxic relationships.

Do not go into dating because everyone is into it or because someone simply asked you out. Be at rest with yourself that you're ready before you commit to a relationship. And you are really ready for dating when you in a way, "DON'T NEED TO". If you feel you need to date in order to be complete or fulfilled personally, you are not ready for dating. If you feel deficient or incomplete, you will build your entire relationship on that deficiency, because you will keep looking up to the other person to supply what you do not have.

You are ready for dating when you feel whole and complete within yourself. When you do not need anyone to complete you (apart from God). Adam was alone at the beginning but he was not lonely. They are two different things. He was fulfilled within himself. He had a work doing, he interacted with the animals, he had fellowship with God, his creator. Basically, he was preoccupied with what God had told him to do that he didn't have a sense of need for a mate. Eve was totally God's Idea. You are ready to date when you have indeed learnt how to be single. When you regard dating as a matter of choice rather than necessity. 

Build Yourself and be ready, First.


- Ifeanyi Chukwudi 


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